Facesitting, also known as Queening, is a common form of body worship. As the name implies, it involves sitting on the face of another. Typically, this is so that cunnilingus may be performed, though this need not be the case. Facesitting is very popular among dominant women and submissive men, but it is also practiced by vanilla couples, who use this highly-enjoyable position for woman-superior cunnilingus (with the woman kneeling over the man, and actually ’sat’ on his upper chest rather than face).

The difference between facesitting and the similar practice of smothering, is that the submissive partner is deprived of air while being smothered, while facesitting does not involve oxygen deprivation. The person sat upon may be in bondage, sexually submissive and therefore compliant, or simply held down by the weight of the other person. Sometimes special furniture is used, such as a queening stool. They are, in any case, usually immobilised, leaving a good deal of body free for the dominant partner,

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The girls are definitely in charge but you can’t help but see that the guys derive a bit of pleasure from being submissive. Smothering is NOT like regular cunnilingus. In fact, at times the guys can’t even lick because they’re just trying to inhale a breath of fresh air. Sure, that overpowering smell of pussy is great, but oxygen is what they really want at times.

Facesitting is very erotic in essence and may be practiced by non-BDSM (vanilla) couples for sexual pleasure. However, when applied in the context of female domination it symbolizes the Mistress superiority over the sub.

There is a slight difference between facesitting to smothering or queening, which is associated with the deprivation of air, yet in the BDSM world these terms are often regarded as one. The submissive is typically restrained from movement, using light to heavy bondage, being held by another person or simply crushed by the Domme’s weight.

The darkness sensation and body weight mixed with female odours, wetness and slow erotic movements create a strong sense of adoration by the submissive male. To intensify the facesitting sensation the Mistress may inflict pain while smothering or queening her sub, such as nipple twisting, body scratching, cock & ball torture, flogging and other activities which will increase the sub’s gasp for air and deepen the sexual experience.

There are unique devices made specifically for smothering/queening, such as the smothering box or the queening stool. These devices fits around the submissive head with two holes, one for the neck and the other for the mouth. The Domme will use these devices as a chair where the submissive is lied beneath her, unable to move. It is considered a very efficient way to restrain the sub from moving while providing higher comfort to Domme.

Queening by definition, requires a dominant, demanding woman and a subservient, obedient man. The woman must be concerned only with her personal pleasure and satisfaction. His mouth, lips, tongue and nose are merely live tools there to pleasure her. He must be trained, if necessary by painful punishment, in the proper use of his facial features. She must gain the maximum delight and orgasmic satisfaction without concerning herself with her victim’s possible distress, humiliation and discomfort.

The choice of type of slave is up to her. She may wish to have a wimpish male twit under her. She may find more delight in subduing a macho strong male. She may have a cuckolded husband to humiliate, taunt and sit on. Some women like to have a mouth-dildo attached to their slave’s head, sticking up from his open mouth as a rideable accessory. This provides pleasant, full, vaginal passage orgasms, but prevents sucking and licking by the male victim. Other women blindfold their prone slaves, thus deleting any possible visual pleasure they might obtain. A few cruel ladies inevitably urinate on to his face after having orgasmed. Others enjoy demanding mouth service right after enjoying satisfactory adultery with a lover, thus making the victim more humiliated. Most queening ladies humiliate, taunt, torment, degrade and tease their victims before and after this enforced cunnilingus.

Facesitting is typically used by the Domme as a mean of rewarding the sub for good behaviour rather than a form of punishment, although it may also be perceived as a form of humiliation. Some people find facesitting to be humiliating and others find it to be a turn on. However, there is a such thing as erotic humiliation, so some people may actually like it because it’s humiliating and when they’re being sat on, they’re being dominated and a lot of fetishes involve domination and submission.

Don’t forget that facesitting is definitely a form of female domination. It isn’t necessarily about getting off for the women involved as it is to have control over a man that would be typically stronger than the woman in other situations.

facesitting[1]What is Arse (Ass) worship

Arse worship (or booty worship) generally describes a sexual obsession with the buttocks and/or anus; or any type of sexual game in which a submissive is motivated by a real or pretend attraction to their partner’s “arse”.

Arse worship may also describe a BDSM practice in which a submissive kisses and licks the buttocks and/or anus of the dominant partner (this definition is very similar to rimming). It is considered by some as a particularly degrading form of domination and will usually involve the submissive partner kneeling or in another lowly position, treating the person being worshipped as the dominant. In particular facesitting or smothering may be applied in order to emphasise the control of the dominant over the submissive. A Queening stool may also be used to facilitate this activity. Ass worship commonly involves a woman in the dominant role (femdom) and a submissive man; it is also practiced, however, by homosexuals of both genders